Why do long term couples split?

It doesn't take rocket science to solve that puzzle. 

Just got this article from the AARP, you my still find it worth reading:
http://www.aarp.org/relationships/love-sex/info-06-2010/naked-truth-long-term-marriages-end.html?cmp=NLC-WBLTR-NMCTRL-062113-HT1&USEG_ID=.
If and when you actually do split up form your partner-- or are getting unhitched as it may-- you should know that after the heart break and despair, at some stage, you will be ready to move on. And you deserve another chance! Not only the young ones are looking for love again...and that is by far the best good news:  the number of people who are getting divorced is increasing. So we have a bigger pool of available partners.
I learned that in my dating agency. Unfortunatley, statistics are often stacked against women, older women that is. Men often go for younger women and a trophy wife- if they can afford it. Men also die younger than women. Depending on where you live, there may just be fewer compatible men around. So we women have to be savvy and pull all the tricks to realize our best chances.
One big help is my book: Next Time Lucky: How to Fid Your Mr. Right. I wrote about my own personal and professional experience as a divorcee at 40+ and as a dating specialist.
Have a look and enjoy the book. You will find invaluable advice! www.NextTimelucky.com
and on Amazon
as well as B&N. EBooks are only $2.99 - well worth the money! Less than a signature coffee!

Would you Date yourself?

If you’re single and over 40 and maybe just out of a relationship, and reading this, you’re probably looking for useful information on how to improve your chances of finding a mate. There are gazillion websites and self-help books out there offering their expertise. Therefore it’s surprising to me that not all resources have been dredged for advice and that singles are still not sure of how to go about it.
Instead of giving tips today about appearance, behavior, conversation etc. on a date, I want to ask you a question that may surprise you: Would you date yourself?
Step 1: Take a critical look at yourself from somebody else’s perspective. Get the big looking glass out! And I don’t mean just for your looks or sense of dress. Look deeper: How does this person project herself? Does she seem to be a happy person? Is she content with her life? Is she somebody I would like to get to know? Spend time with? What are her strong suits?
It’s not a secret that people see themselves differently than other people do. May I say through tinted glasses?
Step 2: Look at your expectations. What do you expect from a partner? Is your list of requirements a mile long and realistic? What are the non-negotiables and what is merely the icing on the cake, sorry,I mean on a mate for you? Where would you compromise? Can the standards of this person be met without resorting to a magic wand or cosmic intervention? Are there things about yourself that you could change and improve?
If you cannot answer these questions honestly — and I admit it is dashed difficult—I suggest you get some help. Be that a trusted friend for a good heart-to-heart discussion or a professional consultant for a make-over. You need someone with an unbiased critical eye to assess what you have to offer, but above all, you need honesty for this to be working.
By taking this approach to dating, the perspective shifts away from an ever demanding me and instead, focuses subtly on your counterpart. Our “Because You Are Worth it!” generation needs a colossal shift in consciousness and become more aware of reality and what is achievable.

How to write an online profile

Ready to go online for a date? Especially we second-time-rounders feel more comfortable with a little help when approaching this new way of dating. A widowed lady confided in me lately that she wouldn’t know where to start of how to go about betting back into the dating scene. Same applies for divorced people or anybody who was in a relationship or married for years and had no need to finetune their dating skills.
The first thing to do is to find a dating website to your liking. No matter whether you choose one of the big names that advertise on TV or go with a site that somebody recommended; whether you go with a freebie, or one that you have to pay for: the first and most important step is always to create your online profile. That is the description of yourself that others see and hopefully respond to. It’s a good idea to read some of other people first. You will quickly identify a style that appeals to you and that you can identify with.
Take notes; write down the criteria that are important for you that your partner should know about you or traits he should share. While you want to describe yourself in the best possible light, bragging is never attractive. Avoid stereotypes! Who doesn’t like candle light dinners and walks on the beach? Be more specific and innovative if you can. A sense of humor goes very far.
There are websites which can help you write the perfect profile to achieve maximum impact and find your soul mate. I find a conversation with a trusted friend helpful if you don’t want to spend money on “Profile Writing for Dummies”. How you see yourself is one thing, but how others perceive you can be quite another.