Single- but not looking

Boy, did I get some news yesterday on the evening news. Maybe you haven't heard either. According to renowned New York University sociology professor Eric Klinenberg the latest trend in North America's largest cities is to be single...and do stay it by design. That would mean the greatest demographic shift since the fifties.And singles stay single deliberately and not for lack of opportunity and choice.No longer is "single" an embarrassing epithet. In Atlanta, Denver, Seattle, San Francisco, New York, Washington and Minneapolis more than 40% of households consist of one person. Canada has even more staggering results:

• Vancouver -- 58 per cent  Toronto -- 53 per cent  Edmonton -- 55 per cent  Montreal -- 66 per cent
• Victoria -- 70 per cent 

Prof. Klinenberg refers to singles as singletons which in my view still smacks a little of a stigmatized term. In the context of his research it must be an endearment! But their economic power is undeniable. Single people spend more money on socializing, restaurants, clothes etc. To quote the man "Living alone comports with modern values. It promotes freedom, personal control and self-realization — all prized aspects of contemporary life."
News out of Japan has confirmed this for a number of years: Japanese find sex and relationships too messy, tiring and "potentially humiliating". All of this will have implications for Japan's birthrate that has been dropping for years. In addition, the economic disaster of last year makes it too expensive for many young Japanese to get married. Well, what do they do instead? They are renowned to cherish technical devices. The young people featured in  that report were playing video games.

If you find this an interesting and novel fact that appeals to you, his book is called " Going Solo:The Extraordinary Rise and Surprising Appeal of Living Alone."

Read more: http://www.ctv.ca/CTVNews/TopStories/20120214/love-marriage-singles-book-120214/#ixzz1s32fxlM0

Would you Date yourself?

If you’re single and over 40 and maybe just out of a relationship, and reading this, you’re probably looking for useful information on how to improve your chances of finding a mate. There are gazillion websites and self-help books out there offering their expertise. Therefore it’s surprising to me that not all resources have been dredged for advice and that singles are still not sure of how to go about it.
Instead of giving tips today about appearance, behavior, conversation etc. on a date, I want to ask you a question that may surprise you: Would you date yourself?
Step 1: Take a critical look at yourself from somebody else’s perspective. Get the big looking glass out! And I don’t mean just for your looks or sense of dress. Look deeper: How does this person project herself? Does she seem to be a happy person? Is she content with her life? Is she somebody I would like to get to know? Spend time with? What are her strong suits?
It’s not a secret that people see themselves differently than other people do. May I say through tinted glasses?
Step 2: Look at your expectations. What do you expect from a partner? Is your list of requirements a mile long and realistic? What are the non-negotiables and what is merely the icing on the cake, sorry,I mean on a mate for you? Where would you compromise? Can the standards of this person be met without resorting to a magic wand or cosmic intervention? Are there things about yourself that you could change and improve?
If you cannot answer these questions honestly — and I admit it is dashed difficult—I suggest you get some help. Be that a trusted friend for a good heart-to-heart discussion or a professional consultant for a make-over. You need someone with an unbiased critical eye to assess what you have to offer, but above all, you need honesty for this to be working.
By taking this approach to dating, the perspective shifts away from an ever demanding me and instead, focuses subtly on your counterpart. Our “Because You Are Worth it!” generation needs a colossal shift in consciousness and become more aware of reality and what is achievable.

An Unhooked Generation

Here I am an ex dating guru with enough experience to give advice as to how to find your love. I'm digging deep into my own trough of experience and a new book tells us that there is a generation out there for whom it is next to impossible to find what they are looking for. The book is called Unhooked Generation: The Truth why we are Still Single. --Well some are.The generation that concentrated too much on careers, fast and easy sex and gratification and an attitude that they are all worth and entitled to everything; that it's OK it to procrastinate and keep on having fun.
The book is based on 100 research interviews that make up the book and deliver the findings:http://amzn.to/pjdZNZ .
During my time as a dating specialist, we dealt, in the majority, with the more mature generation, divorcees, widowed people, the socalled babyboomers. I doubt whether the author;s findings are true for them too.For an insight into my life, my dating workk and own personal dating experience, check out my book:www.NexttimeLucky.com.