Why is it so hard to meet somebody these days?

Too many single people today are faced with excessive work pressure and long commute, leaving them too fatigued to meet the demands of socializing.

Attitude
There are single people seeking relationships who aren't receptive to compliments or small talk from an interested person. A woman sits at a friend's barbecue party, a guy walks up to her and asks how she's doing and requests to sit down. Instead of giving him a smile, she stares back, her face showing no emotion. He may scoot off!

Online Dating
Many people, young and old, divorced, separated and widowed explore internet dating more and more these days. In many instances, people shy away from making face to face contact due to a bundle of personal insecurities and the internet provides privacy and hopefully control in making an 'informed' choice.

Psychological Reasons
Scars from previous relationships such as heartbreak due to infidelity can be a big stumbling block.

Grief from losing a loved one is another huge difficulty to overcome.

Fear of failing in a new relationship is a vital factor.

Pressure to give in to sex from the onset can be a real turn off for many who want to meet serious minded people.

Stress in general including financial and health related problems can hinder people from being ready to meet others.

Many others are overwhelmed by the fear of meeting the wrong person, making it harder for them to meet someone.

Social Interaction
Single parents also struggle to get free time to date because of the demands of caring for their children and trying to put their lives in order.

People who make out time to attend festivals, parties, pubs, church activities and other social gatherings are more likely to meet someone in comparison to another person who opts to spend time alone in front of the TV eating popcorn and ice cream.

Finally, once people are aware of the many challenges they face in meeting people, they can choose to adopt the right attitude, socialize more, set aside their fears and be more open and receptive.

Flirty & Feisty Romance wishes singles a fruitful journey as they search for their life partners.

Thank you, Siggy for the opportunity to be a guest blogger.

My Valentine Romance Novella titled, STOLEN VALENTINE KISS is due out in early February 2014.

Here's a link to the blurb:
http://flirtyandfeistyromance.blogspot.co.uk/2014/01/a-valentine-novella-new-release-from.html

My Best Wishes,

Stella Eromonsere-Ajanaku Creator/Author Flirty & Feisty Romance Novels
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Teasers

I'd like to offer you a few quotes from my book Next time Lucky: Lessons of a Matchmaker on a regular basis. (Reviews you can find on Amazon).

Do you stay with a man who can’t kiss?

Do you stay with a man who has no imagination or fantasies?              

Do you stay with a man who doesn’t go down on you? But likes getting blowjobs?

Do you stay with a man who doesn’t love you enough to tie the knot but only wants the convenience of a provisional arrangement?

Do you stay with a man when the magic is gone, but the security of the set-up is still intact?

Does the answer depend on your age? Experience? Expectations? Your bank account? Or maybe his?

Comments?

Publicity for Book

Dear reader,
I had a couple of really nice mentions in various publications: http://www.writerscafe.org/writing/Hernibs/980573/ which published the whole first chapter of my novel. If you haven't yet, here you can start reading and see how you like it! The book is not just for singles or divorced people but also for those of you who want to see how people get back into the dating game after a long relationship. Times have changed while you are in a happy marriage. Maybe it will make you fell how lucky you are to be part of a couple.
The others I'll mention separately and publish the full interview.

Dating site owner evaluates Next time Lucky

Vivienne Diane Neal: I read the book and it is great. In fact, it will be featured on my One World Singles Magazine at http://oneworldsingles.blogspot.com/ on Monday, February 20, 2012. Siggy has a great sense of humor.

Dating Tips for the over 40s

If you're over forty and want to get back into the dating game, read on please. If you're just out of a long relationship or haven't dated in a while, you probably even dread the fact to put yourself out there again. After all, you once knew how to do it, having been there before, but your skills are a bit rusty.
This happens to most people who find themselves single again unexpectedly or against their own volition. Are your friends telling you it's time to get over him and date again? the pressure is on. You hate to be single again, hate lonely evenings in front of the TV, and most of your friends are not available to go out. The thought of being alone for Thanksgiving and the holidays makes you want to reach for another glass of red and drown your sorrows again.
No man in the gym who seems to be single? You don't have a dog to chat up other dog owners with in the park, and the clientele in your local Starbucks doesn't look promising? How many new hobbies can you take up in order to get into the right mix where singles go? If you are lucky, your town has club for over THIRTIES where you don't feel like a fish out of water. And a friend or two to go with you.
So if you're sure you're ready for this and want to date instead of wait any longer, there is the option of getting on the Internet and the Cyber Highway to Love.
I was there. Believe me, it takes some nerve to throw yourself into the ring. But stretching your comfort zone is necessary. Opportunity doesn't do home deliveries and Mr. Right or even Right Now won't be knocking on your door unless you let him know that you're ready for action and available again. Boot up your computer and get connected! In more than one sense. Be open! Anything could happen! I'll help you along to navigate this fast track to coupledom.

An Unhooked Generation

Here I am an ex dating guru with enough experience to give advice as to how to find your love. I'm digging deep into my own trough of experience and a new book tells us that there is a generation out there for whom it is next to impossible to find what they are looking for. The book is called Unhooked Generation: The Truth why we are Still Single. --Well some are.The generation that concentrated too much on careers, fast and easy sex and gratification and an attitude that they are all worth and entitled to everything; that it's OK it to procrastinate and keep on having fun.
The book is based on 100 research interviews that make up the book and deliver the findings:http://amzn.to/pjdZNZ .
During my time as a dating specialist, we dealt, in the majority, with the more mature generation, divorcees, widowed people, the socalled babyboomers. I doubt whether the author;s findings are true for them too.For an insight into my life, my dating workk and own personal dating experience, check out my book:www.NexttimeLucky.com.