This Life is what You Make it

 

“This life is what you make it. No matter what, you’re going to mess up sometimes, it’s a universal truth. But the good part is you get to decide how you’re going to mess it up. Girls will be your friends – they’ll act like it anyway. But just remember, some come, some go. The ones that stay with you through everything – they’re your true best friends. Don’t let go of them. Also remember, sisters make the best friends in the world. As for lovers, well, they’ll come and go too. And babe, I hate to say it, most of them – actually pretty much all of them are going to break your heart, but you can’t give up because if you give up, you’ll never find your soul mate. You’ll never find that half who makes you whole and that goes for everything. Just because you fail once, doesn’t mean you’re gonna fail at everything. Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself, because if you don’t, then who will, sweetie? So keep your head high, keep your chin up, and most importantly, keep smiling, because life’s a beautiful thing and there’s so much to smile about.”
― Marilyn Monroe
For all of us, at one time or another, we find ourselves, well, by ourselves.  It's those times in life that instead of concentrating and dwelling on how we feel, i.e. lonely, abandoned, sad, relieved, etc, we should take stock of:
~~ where we are -- are we safe? fed? warm? If not, call on friends and family to provide the help you need.
~~ who we are -- did we compromise our own integrity in the last relationship? What can we do to make a positive change in ourselves and not repeat the pattern?
~~ where are we going -- now's the time for new goals and renewed dreams.
~~ who is taking the journey with us --  keep people around you who love you for you.  Surround yourself with people who will be there for you and who challenge you to be a better person.
Here are some simple life rules I have picked up along the way:
~~ Make peace with your past so it won't mess up the present, or the future.
~~ Time heals almost everything, give it time.
~~ Don't compare your life to others and don't judge them. You have no idea what they have been through.
~~ Stop over thinking things, it's okay not to know all the answers. Let life surprise you.
~~ No one is in charge of your happiness, except you.
~~ And, last but not least; smile, you don't own all the problems in the world.
Marilyn really said it best. Always, always, always believe in yourself. People will come and go, things will come and go, jobs will come and go, loves will come and go. The one thing that is constant? You. You will always be with you. Never give up. Never stop learning, loving, dreaming, striving, growing. Stop settling.  If you don't like your life, make a change.  After all, it is your life.
Blessings,
Tamy Burns
 

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New Year -- New Possibilities and New Encounters

   

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Happy New Year to all my readers, single, divorced or dating again or not!

At this time of year, most of us make resolutions for what they want to achieve. Without having statistical evidence to prove it, I dare say more of them will be broken than actually accomplished. But we keep trying-- that's human nature and that is a good thing.

In the run-up to Valentine's Day, you will find contributions by different writers that deal with love (lost & found), relationships and dating. I invited a number of authors and bloggers who write about this topic; some are new to this subject --at least in writing as we all have had experience with it in our lives.

I'm inviting you to check in here to for entertainment. Maybe you want to compare notes if you're in the dating trenches as well or perhaps even find some useful tips. I'm particularly looking forward to articles from male writers. Love  and romance is widely considered to be a female domain.

My Facebook site Singles & Dating Advice has offered many a good reference to dating related sites and given useful information.; some humorous advice too. You will make me very happy if you Like  that page or my other  one Next Time Lucky on FB.
Although I don't work as a matchmaker anymore, this subject seems to follow me around, but I want to get some  others involved and share their perspectives with you.

Let's make 2014 a good year--whether you find your soulmate or not.

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Latest dating tips revealed

This blog is aiming at giving always giving you the latest, newest and hottest of what’s happening in the world of dating.

With Valentine’s well over, dear Singles, you now have the rest of the year to find a partner. V-Day can be an emotional bummer if there is no real love interest on the horizon. As I wrote before, the commercialism surrounding this heavenly day of celebrating love is freaking out even experienced men and women who are married or in a steady relationship due to all the hype and expectations surrounding it.

I had hope to have my paperback book out by now, but some technical glitches delayed the procedure. It’s available, however, already since January on Amazon and B&N as an eBook.

This week I was blessed to be asked to come on to Dr. Tranquility’s Dating- Coaching show again after only 3 months. Here’s the link to that podcast. Kick back, grab a glass of wine or hot chocolate and listen to two pros answering callers’ questions.  My advice that I could only hint at is in my new version of Next Time Lucky – if you want more details.

Today I ran across a very informative and entertaining clip about:

What happens to the brain when we’re in love? Produced by the TED Corporation known for its quality lectures.

Will keep you posted about the availability of my paperback version. Just heard the 1str draft is in the mail. Hope it’s not too long a wait until it hits the shops.

Much love!