What do men really want? I knew what I wanted. And I knew what the men in my dating agency had specified as high on their wish lists. When I signed clients on as new members, I always interviewed them at length in order to get to know them and their expectations, and I also wanted to learn about what was important to them in a partner. I had spent many hours conducting these interviews. Men wanted someone younger than themselves, attractive, loving, and caring with a great sense of humor. My lady clients all wanted a tall man, even the 5’2” ones wanted someone 6’ or taller, which always bothered me. There already weren’t enough tall men in Ireland for tallish women like myself. They also wanted an honest and reliable man who offered security and was active, combined with a great sense of humor. These were the bare necessities, the absolute must haves; the rest were additional trimmings. When I pressed men for more information, for details of what they found attractive in a woman, I got all kinds of answers. Some said they were attracted to a woman’s eyes or her smile first. Others claimed to be attracted to the toss of her hair. One claimed he looked at a woman’s hands first. Others seemed more honest, admitting they were attracted to a woman’s curves; this was sometimes accompanied by an automatic gesture of hands over chest, indicating big boobs. Some wanted a lady “with all on it”. They would say, “Don’t give me a bag of bones!” Beauty is deemed to be in the eye of the beholder. Good thing, because otherwise, we would all be hankering after the same person.
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Why is it so difficult to meet somebody today?
In spite of all the networking possibilities and social media?
If you are Single, Divorced or Widowed and want to get back into the Dating game, if you're looking for that elusive partner, you will be interested to hear how a pro went about it. I was a matchmaker in Ireland and had my own dating agency. I'm sharing my experience and insider views with my readers. For more info see my book's website: www.NextTimeLucky.com!
I had the honor of being asked to come on the local NBC show First Coast Living twice in the last week to give dating advice. If you missed it, you can read all that stuff in my book.
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Sunday, September 21, 2014
What do Men Really Want? A Matchmaker Divulges her Secrets
What do men really want? I knew what I wanted. And I knew what the men in my dating agency had specified as high on their wish lists. When I signed clients on as new members, I always interviewed them at length in order to get to know them and their expectations, and I also wanted to learn about what was important to them in a partner. I had spent many hours conducting these interviews. Men wanted someone younger than themselves, attractive, loving, and caring with a great sense of humor. My lady clients all wanted a tall man, even the 5’2” ones wanted someone 6’ or taller, which always bothered me. There already weren’t enough tall men in Ireland for tallish women like myself. They also wanted an honest and reliable man who offered security and was active, combined with a great sense of humor. These were the bare necessities, the absolute must haves; the rest were additional trimmings. When I pressed men for more information, for details of what they found attractive in a woman, I got all kinds of answers. Some said they were attracted to a woman’s eyes or her smile first. Others claimed to be attracted to the toss of her hair. One claimed he looked at a woman’s hands first. Others seemed more honest, admitting they were attracted to a woman’s curves; this was sometimes accompanied by an automatic gesture of hands over chest, indicating big boobs. Some wanted a lady “with all on it”. They would say, “Don’t give me a bag of bones!” Beauty is deemed to be in the eye of the beholder. Good thing, because otherwise, we would all be hankering after the same person.
Friday, February 17, 2012
Some Soul Searching for Singles on V-Day
There are gazillion websites and self-help books out there offering their expertise. Therefore it’s surprising to me that not all resources have been exhausted for advice; that singles are still not sure of how best to go about finding that elusive mate. Instead of giving tips today about your appearance, behavior, conversation, etc. on a date, I want to ask you a question that may surprise you: Would you date yourself?
Step 2: Look at your expectations. What do you expect from a partner? Is your list of requirements a mile long and realistic? What are the non-negotiable necessities about a partner and what is merely the icing on the cake, sorry, I mean on a mate for you? Where would you compromise? Can the standards of this person be met without resorting to a magic wand or cosmic intervention? What can be changed about you? Maybe something about your demeanor and attitudes? If you cannot answer these questions honestly – and I admit it is not easy – I suggest you get some help; be that a trusted friend for a good heart-to-heart discussion or a professional consultant for a make-over. You need someone with an unbiased critical eye to assess what you have to offer, but above all, you need honesty for this to work. By taking this approach to dating, the perspective shifts away from an ever demanding me and instead, subtly focuses on your counterpart. Our “Because You Are Worth it!” generation needs a colossal shift in consciousness and become more aware of reality and what is achievable. This may not be what you expected; but don’t knock it until you have tried.
http://angiesdiary.com/psychology/hum-rel/some-soul-searching-for-singles-on-v-day/
Friday, December 23, 2011
"A fantastic read" by Vivienne Diane Neal on Amazon
High time to update my blog with the latest Amazon review of my novel Next Time Lucky: Lessons of a Matchmaker.
Singles: Why don't you get yourself a good read for Christmas and start your search anew in the new year?
Happy Holidays with or without a mate and a healthy and prosperous new year from your friend Siggy the former Matchmaker.
Singles: Why don't you get yourself a good read for Christmas and start your search anew in the new year?
Happy Holidays with or without a mate and a healthy and prosperous new year from your friend Siggy the former Matchmaker.
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