Ready to go online for a date? Especially we second-time-rounders feel more comfortable with a little help when approaching this new way of dating. A widowed lady confided in me lately that she wouldn’t know where to start of how to go about betting back into the dating scene. Same applies for divorced people or anybody who was in a relationship or married for years and had no need to finetune their dating skills.
The first thing to do is to find a dating website to your liking. No matter whether you choose one of the big names that advertise on TV or go with a site that somebody recommended; whether you go with a freebie, or one that you have to pay for: the first and most important step is always to create your online profile. That is the description of yourself that others see and hopefully respond to. It’s a good idea to read some of other people first. You will quickly identify a style that appeals to you and that you can identify with.
Take notes; write down the criteria that are important for you that your partner should know about you or traits he should share. While you want to describe yourself in the best possible light, bragging is never attractive. Avoid stereotypes! Who doesn’t like candle light dinners and walks on the beach? Be more specific and innovative if you can. A sense of humor goes very far.
There are websites which can help you write the perfect profile to achieve maximum impact and find your soul mate. I find a conversation with a trusted friend helpful if you don’t want to spend money on “Profile Writing for Dummies”. How you see yourself is one thing, but how others perceive you can be quite another.
Why is it so difficult to meet somebody today?
In spite of all the networking possibilities and social media?
If you are Single, Divorced or Widowed and want to get back into the Dating game, if you're looking for that elusive partner, you will be interested to hear how a pro went about it. I was a matchmaker in Ireland and had my own dating agency. I'm sharing my experience and insider views with my readers. For more info see my book's website: www.NextTimeLucky.com!
I had the honor of being asked to come on the local NBC show First Coast Living twice in the last week to give dating advice. If you missed it, you can read all that stuff in my book.