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Friday, January 31, 2014

This Life is what You Make it


“This life is what you make it. No matter what, you’re going to mess up sometimes, it’s a universal truth. But the good part is you get to decide how you’re going to mess it up. Girls will be your friends – they’ll act like it anyway. But just remember, some come, some go. The ones that stay with you through everything – they’re your true best friends. Don’t let go of them. Also remember, sisters make the best friends in the world. As for lovers, well, they’ll come and go too. And babe, I hate to say it, most of them – actually pretty much all of them are going to break your heart, but you can’t give up because if you give up, you’ll never find your soul mate. You’ll never find that half who makes you whole and that goes for everything. Just because you fail once, doesn’t mean you’re gonna fail at everything. Keep trying, hold on, and always, always, always believe in yourself, because if you don’t, then who will, sweetie? So keep your head high, keep your chin up, and most importantly, keep smiling, because life’s a beautiful thing and there’s so much to smile about.”
― Marilyn Monroe

For all of us, at one time or another, we find ourselves, well, by ourselves.  It's those times in life that instead of concentrating and dwelling on how we feel, i.e. lonely, abandoned, sad, relieved, etc, we should take stock of:
~~ where we are -- are we safe? fed? warm? If not, call on friends and family to provide the help you need.
~~ who we are -- did we compromise our own integrity in the last relationship? What can we do to make a positive change in ourselves and not repeat the pattern?
~~ where are we going -- now's the time for new goals and renewed dreams.
~~ who is taking the journey with us --  keep people around you who love you for you.  Surround yourself with people who will be there for you and who challenge you to be a better person.
Here are some simple life rules I have picked up along the way:
~~ Make peace with your past so it won't mess up the present, or the future.
~~ Time heals almost everything, give it time.
~~ Don't compare your life to others and don't judge them. You have no idea what they have been through.
~~ Stop over thinking things, it's okay not to know all the answers. Let life surprise you.
~~ No one is in charge of your happiness, except you.
~~ And, last but not least; smile, you don't own all the problems in the world.
Marilyn really said it best. Always, always, always believe in yourself. People will come and go, things will come and go, jobs will come and go, loves will come and go. The one thing that is constant? You. You will always be with you. Never give up. Never stop learning, loving, dreaming, striving, growing. Stop settling.  If you don't like your life, make a change.  After all, it is your life.
Tamy Burns

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Brenda Perlin said...

That was really beautiful Tamy. You have such a beautful way of thinking. Thank you for sharing. Loved what you wrote! :-)

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Siggy Buckley said...

What a great article and invaluable contribution to our theme.Be true to your self & cherish your friends!